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A bochur asked whether he had to heed his parents’ request to come home from yeshivah for Shabbos. His own learning and growth, he felt, would benefit more from his being in yeshivah, and the yeshivah he learned in discouraged leaving for Shabbos.
Reb Dovid replied by quoting an expression.
“What does it mean to ‘live the Torah’?” he asked. “Living the Torah,” he explained, “does not only mean learning Torah. It means weighing the aspects of bringing joy to one’s parents against the gain of being in yeshivah. If the yeshivah lets you go home, then that is what you should do. If they do not — if they are very strict, then discuss it with your parents, and they will come to a compromise with you.”
‘When Yidden get up after learning a sugya they should be more compassionate, kinder, with more room in their heart for others, and if that doesnt happen, then they didnt really learn it, and they should sit down and learn it again.’
‘koach d’hetera adif, the power of leniency is preferable.’ Rav Dovid frequently stressed to his talmidim that “It’s easy to prohibit and act the part of the righteous and stringent, but true greatness is the ability to examine a shailah from every possible aspect and find a way to permit it.”